I came upon this article recently in the Boots health magazine talking about how it is so easy to make judgements of others in comparison to ourselves and how we can lessen that impact.
We know that our thoughts have a huge impact upon are emotions, mood and ultimately our behaviour. What we say to ourselves, how we perceive situations can be beneficial or destructive.
Just changing a thought to a more positive one is definitely not as easy as it sounds and sometimes it doesn’t ring true for us. We can certainly challenge our thoughts and check out the reality of them or the evidence that supports them but then we still need to replace them.
We can help take the power out of thoughts by first recognising it and then choosing to “turn down” the impact of it by thinking about something else. If you have a constant inner critic step aside from the thought and consider what makes you unique, what makes you special and different, because we all are! Ask yourself if others were to identify my strengths, attributes and good points what would they say?
If you find yourself comparing yourself against others is this helpful or motivating? If it is not helpful– no point doing it! Neutralise the thoughts by acknowledge what the other person may have without judging it as good or better eg “She is so slim” to “She is slim” – just one word has taken away the judgement. If you see others as being “cleverer” than you, neutralise the thought by saying something like “she can do maths” or “he understands ……. “ – try to leave out the judgement and the comparison.
If you are critical about your body, appreciate it for what it does for you. Do your legs get you from A to B? Are your arms able to hug others? Does your mouth smile? By taking away the judgement we are neutralising the thoughts which makes them less powerful over our mood and self –esteem.
So why not first thing in the morning wake up and thank your kidneys, heart, lungs, muscles, brain etc for working and being there with you for another day!